Preparing Yourself For Your Child's Stay

We understand that it’s stressful to have a sick child. In addition to rearranging regular activities, such as work and school, you may experience worry, guilt, sadness, and relief as you prepare for your child’s hospital stay. As you help your child get ready for his hospital experience, it’s just as important to mentally and physically prepare yourself.

Common feelings

Knowing that your child will be admitted to the hospital or will undergo a procedure may bring up a variety of feelings, including anxiety, fear, worry, helplessness, shock, guilt, anger, numbness, relief, and sadness. Children often sense their parents' feelings. Allowing yourself time to experience your own feelings will help you better support your child.

طرح الأسئلة

It’s helpful to learn more about the hospital, your child's medical condition, and the treatment. You may want to write down your questions.

Some common questions you may want to ask:

  • What should I tell my child about the procedure or operation?
  • What will happen immediately before the operation or procedure?
  • How long will the procedure or operation take?
  • هل يمكنني مرافقة طفلي أثناء العملية؟
  • Where will I wait during the procedure or operation?
  • Will I be told how my child is doing during the procedure or operation?
  • When will I be able to see my child after the procedure or operation?
  • هل سيشعر طفلي بالألم؟
  • ما مدة إقامة طفلي في المستشفى؟
  • ما المدة التي سيستغرقها طفلي حتى يتمكن من الذهاب إلى المدرسة واللعب؟
  • Where can I find more information on my child's condition, operation, or procedure?
  • تذكر أنك أفضل من يعرف شخصية طفلك. Be sure to tell your child's doctors, nurses, and other caregivers about your child's personality and past experiences with health care. For example, if your child is especially afraid of blood tests, staff can often find ways to make the experience less upsetting.

العناية بنفسك

  • It's hard to support your child and family if you don’t take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
  • If possible, take turns with another caregiver in sleeping at the hospital with your child; make a schedule before your child is admitted.
  • انعم ببعض فترات الراحة بعيدًا عن غرفة طفلك. على سبيل المثال، اذهب للمشي أو احتساء فنجان قهوة. Ask the Child Life specialist if a volunteer could stay with your child while you take a break.
  • تحدث مع الأصدقاء والعائلة عما يعتريك من مخاوف وقلاقل.
  • تعلم كيفية التنفس العميق وتمرينات الاسترخاء. Programs about this are shown on Channel 28, the hospital's Education and Relaxation channel.
  • Visit the Hale Family Center for Families or the Resource Room on your floor and ask about wellness activities for caregivers. Massage, Reiki, gentle yoga, meditation, and Zumba are just a few options available throughout the hospital.
  • مارس التمرينات بانتظام. توجه إلى مركز هيل للعائلات أو اسأل الأخصائي الاجتماعي الخاص بك أو اختصاصي حياة الأطفال عن استخدام النادي الرياضي بالقرب من المستشفى.
  • اسأل عن ساعة القهوة للآباء في وحدة طفلك، واسأل عن مجموعات الدعم.
  • احتفظ بدفتر يومية تسجّل فيه التجارب التي مررت بها في المستشفى.
  • نظّم مواعيدك لكي تتمكن من رؤية أطفالك الآخرين وقضاء بعض الوقت معهم.
  • إذا كان الأب والأم منفصلان ولكنهما يشكلان جزءًا مهمًا في حياة الطفل، ففكّر جيدًا قبل أن تقرر من سيرافق طفلك في الأوقات المختلفة أثناء الإقامة في المستشفى أو العملية. وأخبر طفلك بما تخطط له.

Special considerations

If you have a restraining order against your child's other parent, bring a copy of it with you. Show it to the social worker at the hospital.

If you are worried about domestic violence issues, call the AWAKE (Advocacy for Women and Kids in Emergencies) Program or speak with a nurse or social worker.